Let’s Talk Regression.
What a horrible word. What an unfair label. It simply doesn’t sit right with me.
Perhaps it’s just me. I get infuriated when adults start referring to some toddler behavior as regression.
Let me ask you this, if you’re having a bad day, or hard week. You barely sleep or don’t feel like eating, would your partner, family member or friend say “she’s going through a regression”?! I very much doubt it.
Agreed, on the arrival of a new sibling, toddlers & pre-schoolers may readopt some of their previous and more infantile behaviours. While mastering a new skill it can also seem that your child has ‘forgotten’ a previously acquired skill. Should we really call this regression though?
When your TOT hits the 18 month mark (for some children it will be as early as 16 months, for others it could happen around 24 months) and starts waking up in the middle of the night again or is much harder to put to bed – he is not regressing – around this age there is an explosion of physical and cognitive development; your TOT is also coming on leaps and bounds in terms of his social and emotional intelligence. He is working really hard to figure things out in relation to everything in his world, where it fits, how it works, where he fits. This is also the time when a second round of separation anxiety can occur.
Maybe he just starting talking in phrases/sentences; he could be mastering jumping; or perhaps he is thrilled by what he can do with a paint brush. Whatever it might be, he has an innate desire to practice and perfect those skills, next time he is harder to put to bed or doesn’t ‘sleep through the night’ remembering this might just make you feel differently about the situation.
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I live in the hope that the term ‘regression’ is made redundant and instead we adopt a more positive phrase, something such as “phase of development” or for those who are Montessorian amongst us, perhaps we could coin a term similar to the “sensitive periods”.
As I leave you with these thoughts, I am signing off for vacation. Looking forward to some downtime with my TOT. I’ll be back in the Fall with another TOT related blog.